This subject is a touchy subject for many people. I hope to simply present an argument that I'm dealing with in my life right now. Let me warn you: It has to do with religion. So, no hate messages please. LoL.
I've been attending church my entire life. I have always considered myself a Methodist, although that self characterization comes mainly from the fact that I've always attended Fultondale United Methodist Church. It's what I would consider a small family church, with great loving Christian people who generally do the best they know how to do for God and for the community in which they serve. I have no negative criticisms of this group of awesome people. I hope if you're looking for a small family church you'll check us out. FUMC has a LOT to offer for the community.
However, many small churches with smaller numbers of people sometimes have trouble reaching every type of person. It's not a question of "would" or "should", but more a question resources and/or politics. I'll define resources as variables driven by money: this includes staff to run programs, and money to fund activities. Politics is defined as usual: Not everyone wants to go in the same direction. With limited resources one has to choose option A or B; They cannot simply buy the entire alphabet.
So the argument from the title of the post arrives. "It's not what your church can do for you...or is it?" There are many reasons one might mention for going to church. The two main things I can think of that stand out most in my mind are "giving" and "receiving". What?
Ok, let me explain. The pastor gives the congregation a message. They receive it. Then they go out into the community to give the message to others who may not know God. Others receive the message - and you can now see the cycle. The problem with this simple equation is that it isn't that simple. For Christians to "grow" in Christ it takes more than just sitting through a 45 minute message once per week. This is why Sunday school, Bible studies, mens groups, womens groups, youth groups, etc. exist.
So I fall into the "young adult" group. I'm recently married, recently inducted into the full time work force, and doing my best to raise a six year old along with my wife. There aren't very many people in my "group" in attendance at my church. There inlays my dilemma. I believe myself to be a Christian who not only needs to receive spiritual nourishment, but give it too. In the past I've been a part of groups that did both. But the problem is that these projects seem to fall apart in the midst of their growth. This is not only unfortunate, but discouraging.
I see larger churches with booming programs for newly weds, and young adult - that have many others in my same walk of life in attendance. That automatically appeals to me because those people have so much in common with me and my wife. I feel that I have a responsibility to God and my family to concrete some of the belief systems I've sort of "evaluated" throughout my younger years. I don't feel I should be on my death bed before I decide to get everything straight.
I also feel like just leaving the church I've been a member of my entire life is like ditching a responsibility. So the question comes again, "It's not what your church can do for you...or is it?"
The truth is that the question is paradoxical in that the true answer is, "BOTH". Giving and receiving both have to exist for the church to grow. So do I continue to be discouraged and give for a chance to receive? Or do I go somewhere else to receive for a chance to give?
I'll be praying.